One of the ways to make sure you never get anywhere with your health (and even non-health) goals is to compare yourself with others. I have to say this was my biggest obstacle in the past. Let me know if you've ever heard, thought or said any of these before:
Sound familiar? It is to me. I've said all of these before. Obsessed about them, even. It got to a point when I just thought, screw it. Life is not fair. Why should I even bother?
The reasons why I am finally bothering are in this post. And one major healthy living adjustment I needed to make wasn't related to diet or exercise; it was mental: I needed to break free of these negative comparison thoughts.
I still think life is unfair. For whatever reason, hormones or genetics or environmental conditioning or stress or whatever, this is the frame and the metabolism and the body type I have. I need to exercise constantly to keep my energy up and have a body that, while not slim by any stretch of the imagination, is at least *contained.* I need to bring healthy lunches and snacks to work that add another weight to my backbreaking laptop + giant daily bag combo, because the food choices available near me are either chemically processed if cheap or super expensive if fresh. I need to monitor what I eat and count calories while others can just munch away without thought. Yes, I have officemates who live off fastfood and look reasonably well. Yes, I lack sleep because I get up an hour earlier than usual to exercise and have a proper breakfast. It's a big freaking hassle, yes. Others have it so much easier, yes. Naturally slim people will never undertsand the degree of difficulty it takes for people like me, and they will continually offer dumb or unsolicited advice. YES.
YES, and SO WHAT?
In Filipino: ganyan talaga e. There's nothing I can do about the things beyond my control. Stressing about them won't help. Railing about the random unfairness of it all just takes more of my limited time and energy. Best to just accept it, move on, and focus instead on the things that are within my control. And that is exactly what I am trying to do with this Health Escape.
At the end of the day, my body is my business. I'm not getting healthy so that others can approve and say that I am conforming to their ideal of what a woman should look like. Because let's face it, I will never get there. I will never be "slim" -- but that's perfectly fine. I'm doing this for me -- so that I have more years to spend with my kids and hopefully my grandkids. So that I can avoid my hereditary predisposition to heart disease, diabetes and hypertension (yeah, we got it all). So that my skin looks nice and glowing. So that I can wear the clothes that I want to wear. So that I feel UP and motivated. It's all for me
So all these comparisons can go just screw it, yes?